Libido > Relationships and Libido
Finding Balance, happiness and harmony.
We all know that it takes two people to tango, and good communication to make it all
work, but for innumerable reasons there are millions of men and
women who just cannot build a successful relationship and then there are those
questions on fidelity and open relationships.
The goal of this site is to stimulate intersex discussion on all the issues
surrounding our more intimate life issues from how we live our daily lives, to
how we communicate and enjoy real intimacy in the bedroom and the other places
We are all born into and raised within a cultural group complete with prejudices and biases,
so by the time we are teenagers, our minds have been programmed to match as best as possible
and to support the values of the community. Of course today, there are countless sub communities
within the dominant cultural identity.
One of the big shifts in identity has been evolving over the past few centauries and is still ongoing.
This is the shifting power balance between men and women and the changing cultural, religious and social political scene.
If you look to our prehistoric past, this struggle between men and women has always
however for the hunter gatherer tribes, men and women have been fairly equal in status and rights,
but with the development of agriculture, women became subservient to men and at various times over the past 6000 years
they have regularly sought not only equality, but to dominate men.
The suffragette movement and the development of the media for mass communication
has helped to bring the inequity into sharper focus and over the past 100 years,
we have learned to talk about equity and to find ways to come together in
harmony which is actually happening for some individuals and couples, but the
masses are lost in a mire of doubt and uncertainty which emerges as fear,
protectionism and hostility which is played out through the power games that our
children seem to be mastering at ever younger ages.
Today we find ourselves caught in a trap, a trap created only in our minds which
is created by our conditioning and compounded by social politics that most of
us; if we can remember, in our teens we rebelled at to some extent. The
rebels saw the hypocrisy and injustice, they felt and saw the effects of
unreasonable and often uncontrolled force at work in their families and
communities and sought change. In the 60's, the young got into flower power,
yoga and meditation to seek the truth and reason for being and today, youth seem
to have given up, they are turning to drugs and lies, learning to manipulate
those around them for profit and drowning their conscience in alcohol.
Is There A Right Way to Live?
Ultimately there is no one way, however there is an important rule to live by
and that is to do no harm.
If we take a trip around the world, the ideal Western relationship seems to be
monogamy - that is finding a partner of the opposite sex and remaining faithful
for one's entire life. However if we go to some more remote places on Earth, we
will find polyandry a common practice with one woman enjoying several husbands.
There is a good reason for this, it slows population growth and prevents the
over exploitation of the environment, and hey, many women dream of having
multiple partners but rarely all at the same time.. Then in other places we find
polygamy where the male has several or many wives. There are reasons for this
too: In a feudal society, the more children a man has means the more soldiers he
will have to defend the homeland and workers to generate income.
This is a big subject and this is not going to be a treatise on
sociology and politics, rather from here the discussion is moving toward tips
and solutions for you to find deeper meaning and harmony in your life and
relationships irregardless of how they look to an outsider. So here are some
things you can do:
- Trust - that the universe will support you in every way
- learn who to trust and only share your dreams and ideas with those you
feel are worthy and will not undermine you
- Improve your communication skills
- talk about feeling as difficult as it may seem, once you start, it gets
- don't take yourself seriously - lighten up
- Explore and make your sex life more enjoyable
- do what ever it takes and even keep a dairy - it may be a best seller one
- good sex and orgasm is good for your health on all levels
- we need an orgasm once a week to stay healthy
Articles to be expanded:
There are a great
many types of relationships from teen crushes, love at
falling in love by proximity or association, when seeing another
in life action, and then surviving the politics
of living and those difficult relationships where there are degrees
of separation as you can understand in a series of
doctor client interviews. How about
promiscuity? Parents try to save their daughters
from sex, yet they just want to get laid, but sons are generally encouraged to
sow their wild oats...
Sex between consenting people is the 'icing on the cake' in
relationship. The day to day highs and lows of living can be
transcended in the act of making love, and it is this celebration of
There are many ways of
making love and as
intercourse should become more enjoyable over time. Most people have heard of the
"Karma Sutra" found in the sex positions guides in which excellent, tasteful, explicit
and well illustrated programs add variety and new
experiences within love making.
The peak of sexual excitement, characterized by strong feelings of pleasure
and by a series of involuntary contractions of the muscles of the genitals,
usually accompanied by the ejaculation of semen by the male. Also called
A similar point of intensity of emotional excitement.
French orgasme, or New Latin orgasmus both from Greek
orgasmos, from org, to swell up, be excited.