There is much pleasure to be enjoyed from having anal sex, for both
males and females. For many people anal sex is preferable to vaginal
sex. Some people are under the false illusion that anal sex is just
for gay people, this is not true. Everyone can enjoy anal sex...if
you haven't given it a go and you are curious to try it, read below
for some suggestions to help you get started.
Why try anal sex? The anus and rectum have so many muscles and nerve
endings and when they are touched in the right way the stimulation
is amazing.
In this 15 minute talk, Dr. Joy Davidson talks about
the fantasy of anal sex...and reveals the true differences between the movies
and real life including health and safety, and then how to do it enjoyably.
> Make sure you are relaxed. Try clenching and unclenching your butt
muscles just to get your butt relaxed.
> So you feel nice and fresh when starting with anal play, give your
bottom a wash before engaging in any play.
> The best way to get started with anal play is to experiment
yourself. Try experimenting in the shower with a soapy finger, and
gently insert a finger into the anus. Remember, anal play should not
hurt so if you are feeling uncomfortable change what you are doing,
or stop doing it all together.
> Experimenting in the bedroom is also a great way to explore your
anus. The anus is very sensitive and does not stretch as easily as a
vagina so it is always best to use lube when playing with your
bottom. Once you have the lube on your finger, try rubbing your
finger around the anus. This automatically relaxes the muscles and
will make it easier to insert your finger, toy, or penis into the
hole.
> Remember to be gentle. Insert just a little bit of finger at a
time, getting your anus used to this sensation. Keep gently pulling
the finger in and out, gradually increasing the amount of finger you
are inserting into your anus.
> When exploring with your finger, try rubbing your finger in
circles in the anus, seeing if there is a particular spot that you
like to be touched. Keep experimenting gently with your well lubed
finger.
> Sex toys like anal Beads are a great way to get started. You can
gently ease them into yourself and get your used to the sensation.
Just insert one bead at a time, taking it slowly and gently.
Once you are comfortable...
> Once your have explored yourself, get started with your partner.
Remember to use plenty of lube.
> Remember to communicate and tell your partner if it is
uncomfortable in any way.
> If you are a girl, get your partner to massage your clitoris at
the same time. This will add stimulation to your most sensitive
spot.
> Take it slowly and use plenty of lube. The first time might feel
uncomfortable and you might decide it is not for you, however you
might really like the stimulation.
Some different positions to try
> The common position is in the same position as doggie style,
however there are other positions to try as well. When in doggie
style position, keep your bottom raised high in the air, and try
getting your chest as close to the bed as possible. This will open
your anus up even more.
> Try lying on your back with your legs in the air, you can use your
arms to hold them there. This may feel like your anus is more open
and you may be more comfortable on your back.
> Try standing next to a wall and bend over as far as you want.
> While in any of these positions, you or your partner can rub or
stroke your clitoris for extra stimulation.
> Experiment and see what works for the both of you. You might love
or hate it. Don't forget to use plenty of lube and if it hurts in
any way stop what you are doing as this is supposed to be
pleasureable not painful.
About the Author
Suzie Harris, an expert on all things that happen in the
bedroom, particularly love, sex toys and romance. She is the chief
contributor to The Lazy Stud http://www.thelazystud.com.au
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