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Women's Sexuality > Sex - The First Time
Apprehension,
anticipation, fear, excitement, wanting, desire,
delight, vivid, imagination, fascination, or
realization the next morning.
The move to adulthood,
love and sex is
a natural progression in life and requires both awareness and
consciousness. The human desire to mate and reproduce is a
powerful force which bubbles from a limitless well driving the need to give and receive both love and affection amid
the complexity of life
Ideally we learn to
balance our lives and gain a sense of self appreciation and
harmonious place in our community, amid the problems created by
parental and societal controls which goes to make it all the more
interesting.
Excess repression,
manipulation and control of sex and other desires can lead to
various forms of insanity and is believed to cause much of the
social disorder and violence we currently experience in this world.
In this
time when so many viruses are about, condoms or
similarly effective protection are essential. If you
think you may have sex sometime soon, carry a condom,
and remember condoms expire by a certain date.
There is no one formula for good sex, however
Good sex can help intimacy
Good sex can be intimate
Good sex does not always require intimacy
Sex 2 - 4 times a week is considered healthy by many people
including the medical establishment.
There is no upper limit if you are
really happy.
Sex can help to release stress
Most often as you begin to feel the
hormonal changes in your body, and boys start to look
attractive, and you feel that impulse to be with some
of them which at first may be a bit ikky, you are becoming a
woman.
The
transition from childhood to sexual confidence
involves flirting, more tactile play and petting,
exploring each others bodies and learning how to touch
each other, to give and receive a variety of
physical, mental and emotional pleasures while
remaining honest.
The first time
experience is different for everyone and there is no right way. It can be
bliss or it may
hurt a bit, for some it can lead to bloody pain or
embarrassment as a result of where they are at with
it. A good reason to manage your rush.
When
confidence in kissing and touching has been achieved,
when you are both comfortable naked and enjoy each
others company, you are then ready to consider
intercourse with all the consequences from pregnancy
to disease.
The first time can be a
romantic occasion, or an impulsive where-ever as the desire takes
you if you are prepared. As for how you have sex or make love, seek
to acquire the art of both giving and receiving pleasure of each
other, take time to learn, manage the angle of entry,
penis size, or lack of, getting condoms on, him going soft, or you
being to dry, or suddenly helping mom in the kitchen may seem
appealing.
Once you get the basics,
you can then then explore your limits of pleasure, and though sex is
different for everyone, the main opinion is that it gives great
pleasure.
The first time sexual
experience can be great, or tragic depending on the circumstances,
as such, it is a reasonable idea to find an experienced man to
initiate you to intercourse. A man who is kind and caring, who knows
what women like and who will treat you well. Ideally we would
like to see the mother and family of the daughter arrange such an
event for the daughters. In this way there is support at every
level.
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Do you want to have sex?
Q. Well this is how it goes ive
been in situations where a boy or man what ever was about to have
sex with me i was so close it not even funny he put it in and there
was nothing but less then 2 inches lef to go but i never went that
far that happened twice then i met a boy who i really loved i was 13
at the time and he was 17 so i said ok to having sex but i did the
same thing but this time it didnt hurt as much just a lil am i still
a virgin?
A.
Technically no - you are
having a sexual experience even though full penetration and orgasm
may not have been achieved. Perhaps the loss of virginity could be
re-defined as the first experience of orgasm, but then many women
would never loose virginity even after giving birth.
Q. I'm only 13, and so I haven't
had sex yet. But most of my friends have. A bunch of the boys like
me and want to do stuff with me, but I don't think I'm ready. They
prolly think I'm too scared, which I am. I don't want to lose my
virginity yet, what should I say to them??
A.
Say no. Boys will often say
anything just to do it to you and impress their mates. Wait
till you feel you really want to.
Q. How can i tell my man
that i would like him to get me started by touching
me kissing me you know, instead of just getting right
to it? what can i do to do the same to him? I feel real
shy to touch him. its so hard to be serious.
A.
It
can help to flirt with him to find out how interested
he is, if to strong, you may have to hold him back .
Basically let him know you want to, be intimate in
your attitude and perhaps it will flow. You have to
relax and let go while trusting in yourself to stay
awake and be aware that you are both safe and loved
unless you just want to be fucked which can be great,
but not for your first time. Remember to that he may
be as nervous about it as you.
Tip:
It can take time for the vagina to get accustomed to
a penis.
To more enjoy the sexual act, you have to want to do it and to have agreement
with your partner. For more comfort use plenty of
lube if you are not very wet, and make yourselves
comfortable, sit or lay fairly still together with
the penis inside, practice squeezing your vaginal
muscles, and both of you do some soft deep breathing,
looking into each others eyes - practice movements
when ready, like a yoga for sex**. Then (especially
If his penis is very large), take charge and see what
it can do, discover your limits of movement and how
much pleasure you feel, then you can help him to get
the spot without him hurting you.
Q. me and my boyfriend
have been dating for 1 month and 4 days and we have been talking
about having sex we both love each other very much
but i am terrified of the pain i will feel after intercorse he says
he will do it slow but even after i am being fingered it hurts like
hell so i know that his penis will tear me up i just dont want to
try it and tell him to stop and im still horny and he still has a
hard on he says he will eat me out but i want to really orgasm i
want to cum and make him cum please tell me what i need to do to
prepare myself for intercorse! thank you :)
A. There are many books on how to
do it right and overcome fears, but no one agrees and what worked
for me will not work for you, we all have to work it out for
ourselves.
Before you get into each others pants, play with yourself and find
out what feels nice cause the chances are you will have to teach him
how to touch, boys often don't know till after a dozen
relationships. when you get down to it, make sure you have lube and
condoms, make it fun with space to stop if it hurts to much, but
usually once a cock is in it starts to feel very nice.
I like to bath or shower and have my room nice with incense and
candles, but boys are not always into that.. Q. when u have sex for the first time do u bleed during or after
??
A. can be either or not at all
Shared First Time Experiences
My first time was very painful. I was
18. I did it in a car with a guy I really cared for he was 26. He
was also very well endowed. He knew what he was doing, but he felt
that the harder he pushed the first time the faster the painful part
would be over. Of course I don't think his theory was correct, I
hurt for days after that and bled for about a week. I felt like he
really cared for me because he would ask if I was ok and if I wanted
him to stop. I wouldn't call my experience intimate, it was touching
but a little rough. I thought that I was going to have the cowboy
walk forever!
We would love to read your 1st time -
share - readers experiences
continue.
** Yoga
for sex - simply being fully conscious or aware of
your activity, making the effort to support and
deepen the experience.
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