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Women's Index > About Men
> Introduction
Don't you
just love them and hate them? At times they are
charming and very satisfying, & at other times
aside from having no dress sense, are a real turn
off or become distant after you
sleep with them.
I have
been asked - what about
a man's inability to perform and also the inability
to do something about it. What can the partner do
about this to correct this situation?
For many women, one
problem is how to handle his equipment, how do you give a good hand
job or suck him off? Many men enjoy and seek out women
who are sexually confident and know how to please a man and with
little effort, you can to. Read
about the penis and how to perform
hand Jobs, oral sex and
Jessica's guide to giving head.
Really there are a
million reasons and more, but here are a few
thoughts... Are you ready for this???
Men do suffer from moods in a similar way to women.
If you have argued, have unresolved problems, these
of course can be limiting.
Due to the huge amount of sexist advertising in the
media, the idea of sex compared to the real
thing confuses them. Like if you are not the
supermodel in his mind, here he is trying to
service you & it short circuits some brain
functions disempowering him. A radical notion?
Brain research carried out in the UK and screened by
the BBC shows clear evidence that human behaviour is
governed by brain function, and brain function is
governed by the information it is fed into it, and
the ability of the brain to then process this
information... The key to change is for the person to
recognise the situation, desire change and then
develop the willpower to change which then helps the
brain into balance, and then restores normal body
functions and desires. Women are similarly affected,
however the monthly cycle seems to women more
grounded.
What to do?
You
are not going to become a brain and behavioural
scientist overnight however an interest in this field
may be helpful in the long term.
While giving him some attention and like a massage and adequate
foreplay, tantra holds some greater long term solutions that requires that you both have to be willing to commit to change and
grow, work on the problem together. We like
the Tantra Techniques where in this order you:
- Both shower or bathe
- Sit together facing each other
- Take turns to say the things that have annoyed you
about the other without reply unless you have done
wrong and should apologise.
- It is important not to react, just hear each other
and either take on what fits & let slide what
does not.
Take turns to say the things that your partner has
done that have pleased you.
- Take turns to say the things you like about each
other.
- It is nice to make a space in your home to perform
this ritual
This creates a
real deep intimacy which works, even on men reliant
on Viagra. The challenge is entering into the real
intimacy. Here there is a positive code of behaviour
and any bitchiness, blame & accusations have no
place.
If this model is
to difficult, another way is to sit apart and write
down all your problems, gripes & feelings, and
then sit together and read each others letters.
If your life is
bound to the need to earn $$ with long hours working,
for both partners it can be hard to get quality time
together, to relax and enjoy each others company. The
Tantra model above is the best solution to getting
the best out of your man as it creates real intimacy.
Even if he is very tired, with real intimacy, just
having him in you & laying beside you can be real
special and fulfilling and I have found sometimes
leads to a good workout in the morning or a nice lay
in together on a day off working.
Products like Vig-Rx
Oil are helpful, just a little on your hand and massaged
into his penis can work miracles and there is always
Viagra.
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Does Size Count?
Graham Norton hosts a funny talk show on channel 4.
During one of his shows, he asked volunteers from the
crowd to participate in a process of making birthday candles more...
in the shape of their penises.
When the process was over and the cake arrived, the fun
started!
My husband has a small penis and i
have to use a toy when having sex to get me going
what else can i do i dont wont to upset him by
telling him he has a small penis
Hi, you must be
honest and tell him. If he would like to do more to
reach new heights of pleasure with you, and perhaps
increase his self esteem, use a enlargement program where you can be
actively involved by making the exercises a part of your sex play, more questions
here
Tracey says:
"I think every woman should
experience 2 men at once because we are built to be able to do so
while men are not. The power a woman feels being able to get two men
off is intoxicating!"
Boo says:
my boyfriend want me to have a threesome with his friend he said
that he want them to fuck every hole on my body
Hi Honey, a 3some is you and 2
others - sounds like your talkin of a 4some? you gotta be in charge
so you don't get hurt
i don't like sucking dick be cause i always get choke on it.
so don't or do it smarter so you
don't choke.. you have to be careful
watch this video - get him to lay back and you take control so
you don't choke yourself
i had a 2some before his friend dick was so big i could not take in
my ass because the pain was so bad. but after i got drunk i could
not fill any thing the only thing i know that my ass was in so much
pain i could not set down for about 2 days the made a sandwich out
of me i am glad that i was drunk. because today i have anal sex with
this man all the time.
sounds like you have been broken in
very roughly.. remember this is your life and your body and as much
as you want to please others, you have to take care of you.
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