In most younger men the main cause is often just to much excitement - you are their dream come true and they just need to get their feet back on the ground and learn control. In fact many young men in puberty will ejaculate just at the though of sex without any touching & as I recall, can happen to us girls as well & all I can say is that I'm glad I can have multiple orgasms..

While there are other causes like tiredness, excess alcohol, and some selfish men that only want to get off & not care about you which is where counselling or psychiatric help is needed, or else you find another..

As this subject so close to their concept of manhood, most men do not feel comfortable speaking about it while the problem is 100% resolvable.

You can help them overcome this annoyance by working with them to: